THOUGHTS OF AN EXPECTING FATHER

The news that you are going to become a father makes you happy because you know that some body from your own soul and chromosome is on the way. You want to feed your wife and thereby you want to feed your child. You will feel it all like a dream and still you dont know what to do? Suddenly duration of months increases. An attachment developes with somebody whom you have not seen but whose existence you know.

I always admires the power of almighty whom I believe is in the form of a Mother. It is from her womb that a new creation starts. From the day I heard that indication of life is there in my wife’s womb, I was thinking about how the transition occurs from zygote to embryo to a child. The mitosis, meiosis, cell division happening. Who makes it happen? It makes you still perplexed that you are part of the reason for the said creation though the timing and other factors are entirely under the master control.

During this stage, advices starts pouring from all quarters, be it relatives, neighbours or friends. In the meantime, you will make your own preparations. You will consult the doctor, take advice regarding the medicines, vitamins, health drinks etc. Spend lots of money on healthy protein rich foods, vitamins and fruits and after all this effort, the expecting mother will start her 3 month job, of nausea & vomiting . In the end, the expecting father will have to feed on all the vitamins, and other health foods, gaining weight and strength and courage to do all the kitchen work since your wife cannot even sustain the smell of boiling water. As a result the expecting father will put on weight and he will put on a tummy similar to expecting mother. There are still some excuses for putting on weight.

The expecting father is always very particular about the care of the mother and child. You will learn cooking and will do all other house hold works. These sacrifices, which you have not done for your wife till now, you will start doing for your child. (Exception proves the rule). The thoughts which came to my mind were .. i was a bachelor, two years ago, now am a husband and going to become a father... you are getting promoted... your role is changing.... the poem of Shaekspear came to my mind. All the world’s a stage and all men and women are players ...

The pains that a women suffers during the pregnancy period, gets converted to love and affection to the child. I think that gives the strength to the bondage between mother and child. What gives strength to the relation between father and child ? An explanation to this is that the ‘to be father’ gives a part of his life as energy to the ‘to be mother’ where there will be union of energy causing the happening of a new life. So in that way the ‘ to be father’ also expects to see how his energy has evolved to become a new life. In fact the mother feels the movement of the child in her womb and father feels the same through his mind.

When the Doctor is examining the expecting mother, the expecting father also feels anxiety, expectations and hope. Being a father is a special status which makes him more responsible resulting in elevated ego. His family evolves. He will feel that somebody is coming who will take care of him and who will act as a support to him. The long cherished dream is nearing giving the expecting father a new ray of hope, expectations and new meaning to life.